The Realities of Divorce

My parents separated when I was eight. We lived in Virginia which meant the parents had to be living separately for one year. They had to wait one full year until their divorce was final. The most fought after in court is the custody of the minor children. Parents, lawyers, judges etc consider minor children as property. In the video Voice of a child of divorce, the young boy is writing a letter to his parents, he is explaining to his parents that he has feelings, how he develops is in the hands of his parents. Parents that constantly bicker over the children, in front of the child lowers their self esteem. By putting the other spouse down in front of your child sends a signal that they aren’t worthy of love or being loved.

My mother would prevent my siblings and I from seeing our father. This is called malicious mother syndrome. She would take us out of the house just minutes before he was due to arrive to pick us up for visitation. Sometime he had us for the entire weekend, other times just Sunday visitation. Kids don’t need part time parents, they need full time parents. My siblings and I still suffer to this day with the effects of our mother’s actions. When my father died, my brother said “it’s hard to miss what you never had.” No truer statement was ever spoken.

I had a boy in my Cub Scouts, his mother was denied custody but was allowed visitation. He went for…